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PODCAST: What is Headship in Ephesians 5 and 1 Corinthians 11? Feat. Marg Mowczko
What is "headship"? The headship doctrine says that because man is the head of the wife, then God made men to be in authority over women in marriage, and often in church too. But this assumes that the Greek word for head actually means authority. What if it doesn't?...
PODCAST: Our Best Christian Dating Advice–You Asked and We Answered!
Let's talk about dating and finding a mate! This is the subject that Rebecca and I tend to avoid like the plague, because we feel very ill-equipped to talk on it. We both married very young; we didn't spend a lot of time single; and to make it sound like we understand...
PODCAST: Are Soul ties Real? And is the Purity Culture Belief Harmful or Helpful?
The iea of soul ties was commonly taught in purity culture. Basically, it boils down to the thought that when you have sex with someone, your souls are joined in the spiritual realm. If you have sex with someone that's not your spouse, then, part of you will always be...
What Difference Have We Made This Year?
We're hear to change the conversation about sex and marriage in the evangelical church. And in the wider church too! We want to make it something healthy, evidence-based, and biblical (by which we mean Jesus-centered). And sometimes it's good to pause and ask, "are we...
Eve in Exile by Rebekah Merkle: The Onesheets Spread!
Doug Wilson's daughter Rebekah Merkle peddles patriarchy in Eve in Exile And not just patriarchy, but downright misogyny.I haven't taken a look at her books yet, because we have a system for choosing which books we look at based on Amazon sales rankings, and we...
PODCAST: The Problems with His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
Let's talk about His Needs, Her Needs! Today, for episode 284, we're joined by Bethany Jantzi and Ngina Otiende, who took one for the team and read Willard Harley's book His Needs, Her Needs. Interestingly, he's updated it a LOT since the Great Sex Rescue was...
The Problems with the Book His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley
Let's look at His Needs, Her Needs by Willard Harley But first... One of the things we’re passionate about on this blog is making sure the self-help and relationship advice in the evangelical world is healthy. Over the last few years, our team has surveyed 40,000...
A Postmortem on the Damage a Marriage Book Can Do
How do Christian marriage books harm? We talk a lot at Bare Marriage about how Christian marriage books can harm people, often by teaching toxic things about staying in abusive marriages, giving sex on demand, or perpetuating teachings that we know are correlated with...
PODCAST: Did the Church Steal Your Sex Life? What If Church Isn’t Safe feat. Andrew Bauman
Is the Evangelical Church a Safe Place for Women? Today we're joined by Dr. Andrew Bauman, with his new book Safe Church, based on his research into women's experiences in church. He shares with us why so many women have been harmed in evangelicalism, from things like...
10 Differences Between a Roles-Based Marriage and a Partnership-Based Marriage
What if marriage could actually be a partnership? So much of Christian marriage literature is centered around the strange idea that God ordained wives to fulfill one role in the relationship (submission and housework), while men were created to fill another...